Love and Hurt

In order to enter into any kind of relationship you need to understand that you will be hurt by the other person and the other person will hurt you. Although this is true for all relationships I want to focus on the intimate relationships between sexes. Now on both sides (particularly the female side) there is a fear of rejection and fear of being hurt. However when this fear exists in either party the relationship cannot be all that it can be. If both people understand that they may be forgotten at times or ignored at times then the animosity that grows from that hurt will potentially subside. Now it is very difficult for this to happen for two very deep rooted reasons. First the millions upon millions of romantic comedies (or rom coms as my brother so hilarious puts it) that plague this world cause the expectations that women have of men and vice versa to sky rocket past the realm of reality. Now don't get me wrong I enjoy a rom com from time to time but lets be honest, they are the farthest thing from reality. Second, no one likes being hurt or even less admitting that the person they like or "love" would ever hurt them. This disillusionment can cause serious hurt to either or both parties. If we can accept that hurt will happen like it inevitably will then we can cherish the happy moments and accept the hurtful ones. If you can not accept the hurt that is naturally accompanied with a relationship then you will never be able to be in one.