"The One"

The idea of there being one perfect person for you to be with has been around for a while. It is primarily a Western ideology because in the most of the East there are still arranged marriages and not so much "freedom" as we Westerners love to talk about. I have talked to many people about this idea about love and relationships and who is the "right one." Some say that there is a feeling you get when you are with this person that you do not get with anyone. Other people, although there aren't many, say that it doesn't matter who as long as you commit to loving that person as long you are alive. On the whole people say that it is a combination of both. Through my experience with the opposite sex, as brief as it may be, has led me to several conclusions. First this idea of "love" being a feeling that is indescribable is a load of garbage. Particular for men that feeling could be nothing more than wanting to get into the pants of the woman you are with. Second love is a decision and a mindset towards another person; to always put their needs before yours. Now this task of loving is no doubt easier with some people than others. In my opinion there is a set amount of women in the world at this moment that would be suitable spouses for me based on mutual interest and capability. However out of those possible women my list is shortened by the life experiences I choose to have and the women I actually have the opportunity to interact with. But at it's base what relationships come down to who is the person that you can be with for the longest possible time with where the pleasure outweighs the pain. Another point I would like to touch on is this myth that love is blind or that it doesn't matter what some one looks like in a relationship. The truth of the matter is that if a person does not find the other attractive they would have no real interest to get to know them to the point of having a long term serious relationship. So in conclusion when you find that person that is most compatible with you and who you enjoy spending A LOT of time with then do it to it and if it doesn't work it just doesn't.